Life is a big teacher
United we stand , divided we fall
TEAM-SPIRIT ,COOPERATION, SHARING, UNDERSTANDING EACH OTHERS FEELINGS WERE ALL LEARNT SINCE EARLY CHILDHOOD
No classes, lectures,books can bring such cultures in any person. We can only set example by doing in practice. You can only expect your children to follow but it is not a must. Several ideas from the environment or family is fed into the child’s mind daily by his own observation. He learns from these also.
NOWADAYS WE HAVE SINGLE FAMILIES. So even grandparents, aunts, uncles etc become extended families. Parents have to deliberately make an effort and act in such a way that the child understands these feelings.THIS IS ALSO IN THEIR OWN INTEREST ONLY BECAUSE OLD AGE IS SOON APPEARING.
I SAW MY PARENTS SAILING THROUGH LIFE STRETCHING THEIR HANDS AROUND EVERYONE (uncles, aunts, nephews, niece,grandfathers, grandmothers, friends, neighbors )WITHOUT EXPECTATION AND I TOO DID THE SAME .NOW I SEE MY CHILDREN ALSO COPYING . SO I UNDERSTOOD THAT SOME THINGS YOU DONT TEACH YOU DO.
WHATEVER YOU DO WHETHER GOOD OR BAD IT TAKES A U TURN AND COMES BACK TO YOU.
Some days back an uncle met me and asked me to advise his son against doing some monetary transactions with his Son-in-law. Years back this same uncle entered into monetary transactions with his brotherinlaw. I SAID HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF. THIS IS MIRROR EFFECT. This shows family is not united because son has followed fathers weakness.
In some houses when somebody says or does a wrong thing they dont let him down before others . I appreciate this cooperation . The person who has wronged is already there but the other people dont correct him in isolation also calculating the benefits of this wrong doing. I AM SURPRISED BY THIS. It means everything is just profit and loss statement. It means family is not united but matlabi.
Some people do things say even help by calculating risks which is very good. Risk of not getting back the item or money is there so it is reasonable because they cannot afford to lose. But people dont want to help but grab from someone for reasons given below .
- . For example I wanted to get admission for my son in a particular school. My aunt’s friend knew the principal. Her one word would help. But my aunt refused politely saying Why choose that school? Any school is the same. It is the child who is going to study. choosing people you think you should help attitude. These people are choosy so they can never unite.
- I wanted to help my friend for obtaining admission for her son in college. My other friend stopped me saying what will you do if you want? keep it in abeyance and use it.what if we have to approach the same person for help attitude. This is selfishness which is not a parameter for unity.
- Only if you are going to get name or fame you should help. The idea is to cash on this fame at a later date. This is cashing on someone’s bad times. this person can never unite.
- Cheating in the name of help. SOME CHEATER ARE BOLD ENOUGH TO SAY THAT THEY ARE HELPING YOU TO MULTIPLY YOUR FINANCE, get a house on auction etc AND FLEE WITH YOUR MONEY. Unitedly they are law breakers.
- . Some people use others silence or innocence and think they are very smart in doing this like cheating. THIS HYPOCRITE DOES NOT UNDERSTAND THAT THE OTHER PERSON IS NO FOOL ONLY HE EXPECTED A BETTER PERSON . Unitedly they are thieves.
- MAKE HAY WHILE THE SUN SHINES ATTITUDE THAT MEANS MAKE THE BEST OF SITUATIONS TO YOUR ADVANTAGE. Unitedly they are goblins.
What life taught me is that you do what fits in the frame of rules of nature and leave the rest to universe to decide.
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