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HOW DO YOU RATE YOURSELF

WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU DOES NOT MATTER

WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT YOURSELF MATTERS MOST

let me tell you a story for this.

I know you will thinking about the man and the son who went to market to sell a donkey. On the way they met people remarking about son walking and father riding the donkey.So they exchanged places and many remark about son riding and father walking,  so both sat and rode. people commenting about the poor donkey carrying heavy weight.Now both got down to lift the donkey. The donkey ran away kicking both son and father. This is how we all do and allow donkeys to kick us. 

LET ME TELL YOU  REAL LIFE STORIES.

My friend Anusuya had a problem. When she was in sixth standard her teacher made her get out of the class which depressed her. She was an  girl average in studies. In her school average child should sit with brilliant child. Now every afternoon test was conducted on different subjects. Monitor of class used to supervise and report to teacher. On one such afternoon Her friend Geeta kept Anusuya’s notebook and copied. Anusuya was picked up and sent out of class. Anusuya tried to explain but teacher did not accept. She went into depression Why?

second story

Once my friend Keya went for College day. There was a partner game. She and another boy were partners. keya was a reserved girl. She was not ready for other children teasing her with his name etc etc. Those days during vacation letters were a form of communication between friends since there was no phone, computer etc. Keya’s friend shyama wrote her a letter. She asked “How are your kith and kin?” Enough, this made keya more depressed that she had to consult a psychiatrist.

Why ?

third story

In my son’s school one boy was misbehaving in class. He brought knife to class and was talking nonsense. One good boy seeing this brought it to the notice of Principal. The principal called that scoundrel and asked him. He denied. All teachers however supported this good boy. Based on this the scoundrel was suspended. Next day the good boy was attacked by the scoundrel with cycle chain. The good boy got frightened and became school drop out. why?

WE UNDER RATE  OR OVER RATE OUR-SELF, INSTEAD OF UNDERSTANDING OUR-SELF.

LISTEN TO MANY BUT DECIDE ALONE

ONCE DECIDED ACT

ONCE ACTION IS OVER DONT DESPAIR OR FEAR

FACE THE CONSEQUENCES

MAKE EVERY CONSEQUENCE A LEARNING POINT

LIFE TEACHES YOU EVERY WAY

UNDERSTAND THIS EVENT IS LIFE’S CREATION

TO TEACH HIS CHILDREN

SELECTED BY HIM

TO MAKE HIS CHILDREN STRONG AND NOT DEPRESSED

SO INTROSPECT, ANALYSE AND THEN DECIDE

ONCE DECIDED ACT THEN FOLLOW SAME STEPS MENTIONED ABOVE.

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how to test whether we are really united?

Life is a big teacher. life teaches us that unity is strength

United we stand , divided we fall

TEAM-SPIRIT ,COOPERATION, SHARING, UNDERSTANDING EACH OTHERS FEELINGS WERE ALL LEARNT SINCE EARLY CHILDHOOD

No classes, lectures,books can bring such cultures in any person. We can only set example by doing in  practice. You can only expect your children to follow but it is not a must. Several ideas from the environment or family is fed into the child’s mind daily by his own observation. He learns from these also. Unity is strength.

NOWADAYS WE HAVE SINGLE FAMILIES. So even grandparents, aunts, uncles etc become extended families. Parents have to deliberately make an effort and act in such a way that the child understands these feelings.THIS IS ALSO IN THEIR OWN INTEREST ONLY BECAUSE OLD AGE IS SOON APPEARING .

I SAW MY PARENTS SAILING THROUGH LIFE STRETCHING THEIR HANDS AROUND EVERYONE (uncles, aunts, nephews, niece,grandfathers, grandmothers, friends, neighbors )WITHOUT EXPECTATION AND I TOO DID THE SAME .NOW I SEE MY CHILDREN ALSO COPYING . SO I UNDERSTOOD THAT SOME THINGS YOU DONT TEACH YOU DO. unity is strength,

WHATEVER YOU DO WHETHER GOOD OR BAD IT TAKES A U TURN AND COMES BACK TO YOU.

mirror effect

Some days back an uncle met me and asked me to advise his son against doing some monetary transactions with his Son-in-law. Years back this same uncle entered into monetary transactions with his brotherinlaw. I SAID HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF. THIS IS MIRROR EFFECT. This shows family is not united because son has followed fathers weakness.

matlabi family

In some houses when somebody says or does a wrong thing they dont let him down before others . I appreciate this cooperation . The person  who has wronged is already there but the other people dont correct him in isolation also calculating the benefits of this wrong doing. I AM SURPRISED BY THIS. It means everything is just profit and loss statement.  It means family is not united but matlabi.

Some people do things say even help by calculating risks which is very good. Risk of not getting back the item or money is there so it is reasonable because they cannot afford to lose. But people dont want to help  but  grab from someone for reasons given below .

choosy

. For example I wanted to get admission for my son in a particular school. My aunt’s friend knew the principal. Her one word would help. But my aunt refused politely saying Why choose that school? Any school is the same. It is the child who is going to study. choosing people  you think you should help attitude. These people are choosy so they can never unite.

selfishness

I wanted to help my friend for obtaining admission for her son in college. My other friend stopped me saying what will you do if you want? keep it in abeyance and use it.what if we have to approach the same person for help attitude. This is selfishness which is not a parameter for unity.

taking advantage

Only if you are going to get name or fame you should help. The idea is to cash on this fame at a later date. This is cashing on someone’s bad times. this person can never unite.

cheaters

Cheating in the name of  help. SOME CHEATER ARE BOLD ENOUGH TO SAY THAT THEY ARE HELPING YOU TO MULTIPLY YOUR FINANCE, get a house on auction etc AND FLEE WITH YOUR MONEY. Unitedly they are law breakers.

misusers

. Some people use others silence or innocence and think they are very smart in doing this like cheating. THIS HYPOCRITE DOES NOT UNDERSTAND THAT THE OTHER PERSON IS NO FOOL ONLY HE EXPECTED A BETTER PERSON . Unitedly they are thieves.

situation attackers

MAKE HAY WHILE THE SUN SHINES ATTITUDE THAT MEANS MAKE THE BEST OF SITUATIONS TO YOUR ADVANTAGE. Unitedly they are goblins.

What life taught me is that you do what fits in the frame of rules of nature and leave the rest to universe to decide.

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